There are a few prejudiced notions that have the power to unite, let alone a country, but the world as one. Naturally, such notions are based on some presumptions, namely – i. The rule holds good for majority of the populace, irrespective of the nationality, caste and creed. I won’t include sex here – you will know why. And, ii. For any such prejudiced notion exists exception(s). For years, certain prejudices have been passed across generation(s) with the side-effect of a clouded mindset. Such prejudices tend to make an impact right from the stage a child begins to understand the worldly nuances.
The prejudice I’m referring to here is none other than the phase when a woman, knotted to somebody else through holy matrimony, comes across her Mother-in-Law. Before delving any further – the subtleties of this prejudice (highlighted eventually) is based on the presumption that it is the woman (and not the man) who faces the Mother-in-Law.
In most occasions for the women, the Mother-in-Law may not be a bad or worse, an evil person. However, for reasons regardless, she is portrayed as a good person neither. Now I’m not insisting that your mother programmed you that way where she must have fed all sorts of cock-n-bull stories about your granny, when you were growing up, only to make you aware of the fact that it could be a cruel world after all. She may or may not have been the only source of your influenced way of thinking. For all you know, stories from your mother’s ladies’ circles when you must have overheard some conversations, or the times you must have caught-up with your friends after all those years by which time they must’ve gotten married, or the wretched online forums today (for all those research buffs) may have played parts to twist your way of thinking.
Let’s face it – it does not take much to confuse/ infuse/ marinate a woman’s way of thinking. However, the one thing that may differ from one woman to another is the outlook. Some manage to embrace this entire phase with an ‘in-the-flow’ open-mindedness where they get on with it the way it goes, while some put it off until the day they need to face it actually (why worry until then). However, there are a few others who become preoccupied with this prejudice the moment they realise of its existence (oh my! What am I going to do).
For those who may not be aware, I’m an Indian. Given the diversity this country brings from across states and cities, I come from a land of cultural differences – so much so, that at the onset I wasn’t even fully quipped with my spouse’s first language. Read here on how I got acquainted with the city in the first place: C.H.E.N.N.A.I.: An Experience.
Coming back to the elephant in the room – did ‘facing the Mother-in-Law’ setup work out for me?
Read part 2 of the post here.